A few years ago, I attended a Silver Ring Thing event in my town. Like many teens and preteens that night, I took the oath of purity and abstinence. Now, five years later I still have the tiny silver band on my left ring finger with 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 still legible.
When I took the oath at 15, I wasn’t really aware of the power of the pledge that I had just taken. Now that I’m 20 and have two years of college under my belt, I see the importance of remaining pure in a constantly digressing world. I’ve seen friends wearing their ring around their neck and no longer around their finger. Their signal was clear. It broke my heart to see people break their oath but I knew the devil had deceived them.
One friend wanted to talk to me about it over coffee one day. She immediately teared up and explained how much she regretted it and wished she could undo it. Sadly, that story has become all too common in today’s society. It’s now considered weird to remain pure and steadfast. We are the outcasts now when we should be the majority.
Most people when they see my purity ring don’t say anything and just continue on their way. I never had someone come out and condemn me for it. Recently, I started a job where I actively interact with many people through my shifts. While talking to one of them, they noticed my purity ring and immediately called me out on it.
“Is that a purity ring?” I nodded and held my hand out to show them. They recognized the familiar ring because they too had taken the oath. However, they had broken theirs. They didn’t seem repentant and in fact made me feel like the inferior party.
Growing up around Christians and attending most of the school years in a Christian school, I became accustomed to no one really disagreeing with my views or how I did things in my Christian walk. Even while at community college people didn’t question my beliefs or faith. This was all new to me and I was shocked to say the least.
They made purity out to be something horrible; a disease of sorts. I began to think about it and realized how duped today’s young people are which inspired this blog post.
2 Timothy 2:22 says it best, “Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.”
Christians are to be of a pure heart. People will be hardened by broken hearts and broken promises, missed phone calls, and useless fights. Why would I want that? I know by keeping God’s Word and keeping my heart pure that one day I will meet the one that God has been saving for me. If I could skip all the pain of a broken heart and pointless relationship that aren’t ending in anything good, why wouldn’t I do that?
Why would I want to date several men in order to test it out or find my type of person? The only type of person I need is what God wants for me and He knows me better than I know myself. He knows my outward parts and the deepest secrets of my heart, so why wouldn’t I trust Him to prepare my husband for me?
Friends have told me, “Hannah, if you never date, how will you know what kind of guy you want?” My response to their question was simple. “Why aren’t you trusting God to bring you your husband?”
Today people date for all the wrong reasons and it almost always ends in heartbreak. My heart has never been broken because I have never given it away. I’m fully trusting God that by remaining pure, He is preparing my heart for my husband as well as preparing my husband’s heart for me. I’m putting my trust fully in God and the Pastors who are my leaders in my life and I know that both parties have my best interest in mind.